In my previous article specifically on style, How to define Style, I made an attempt at defining what style is. In this article let’s take a look at some of the things you can do to find your own personal style.
One of the quotes that defined style the best for me was this one from Gore Vidal: “Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.”
Style is as much about knowing about yourself as well as knowing what you want to portray. If you are assured of this knowledge, other people’s opinions don’t really matter.
How to find that confidence in yourself and your style
1. Understand your body
Knowledge is power. So the first thing you need to understand is what kind of body you have and what works for you. If you have a good understanding of your body shape and your strengths and weaknesses, you can buy the right clothes to either accentuate or camouflage them. My Private Stylist program helps with that so you may want to try that out.
2. Keep a note book or diary or take pictures
If you felt great on any particular day wearing a certain outfit, write it down. Or better even, take a picture. I have found that taking pictures of myself (even after the short period that I have been doing it) is a great help in recognising which outfits worked and looked good and which ones didn’t. You can also ask my opinion in our fashion and style forum.
3. Understand your personality and colours
Colours can also have a huge effect on your style and how you feel. Understand how certain colours make you you feel. You can consider doing a color analysis with an image consultant or you can do a beauty profile assessment or style course. You can also do exercizes like the style statement to understand your style personality.
4. Keep a scrapbook of the styles that inspire you
Whenever you see others wearing clothes you admire or like, try to get a picture and paste it in a note or scrapbook. After a while, you will see a pattern developing of the kind of styles that you like. Take note of that and remind yourself about this style before going for the latest fashionable trend. A great place to that now is Pinterest. Be sure to follow me there!
5. Be critical of your current wardrobe
Be honest. Which garments in your closet do you REALLY like. How many of the garments have you not worn for a long time. How many were ‘mistakes’. Again, write down what didn’t work. Then throw away or swap any items that you know don’t really look good on you. They may be great pieces, but if they don’t suit YOU or your body type, you will not look stylish in them. Have a look at my wardrobe editing series and create a wardrobe that you love!
6. Make sure that every item you buy FITS you
I’m sure this happened to you. You see an absolutely wonderful piece of clothing at a rock bottom price. You try it on, but it’s just a little bit too short or too tight. You buy it anyway because the piece is so lovely and it’s cheap. This is a big mistake. Any clothing that does not fit you properly will never look good on you. So please beware of sales and only buy new clothes when you really adore them and they fit you properly.
7. Only follow the latest trends when they fit your style or your body type
True style defies fashion trends. Although it is nice to add some trendy pieces each season, you should only go for the trends that suit you. Don’t go for the bright colors trend if those colors look terrible on you. Try to wait for a trend that suits you and then buy several pieces.
8. Make sure you wardrobe contains all the necessary basics for your style
If through all of the above you got a clearer sense of what you like and what suits you, you need to determine if you have the basic essentials necessary for your particular style. Many stylists advise that you will at least have:
- A little black dress
- Some ballet flats
- A classic white shirt
- A good pair of pumps
- A cashmere jumper
These basics may be different for you. Go trhough your inspiration book and determine the absolutely necessary essentials for your style. Here is also what some style experts have to say about your wardrobe essentials.
9. Add your own special statement pieces
Once you have covered the basics of your style, look for some wonderful statement pieces that are truly unique for you. Try to be creative and mix both high and low end brands together. Create something unique!
10. Make your style extra special with the right accessories
Accessories are easier to change and it’s also easier to be very creative with them. Invest in a good pair of shoes and choose the perfect hand bag for your style. If you understand your style well, it may not be necessary at all to have many shoes or handbags. Rather, you could focus on getting the perfect ones. One of these accessories may become part of your signature style. Something that uniquely defines you.
Let me know if these tips work you for you!
UPDATE: I have taken the process of finding your style a whole lot easier for you now! I created the 10 Steps to a More Stylish You course. In 10 days you will understand so much more about your own body, personality, style and will know what you need to do to take it to the next level. Find out more and get instant access!