3 things that date us or make us look older

by guest writer

3 things that date us or make us look older | 40plusstyle.com

We buy new clothes every year and may follow fashion trends, but how often do we think to change a lipstick colour or our hairstyle or hair colour?

We may not necessarily want to look younger, but we certainly don’t want to look older. Our goal should be to look modern.

Let’s look at some examples of what can date us or make us appear older and how to fix it.

1. Too much or the wrong colour makeup.

As we get older, our colouring softens and dark or bright colours that once worked for us may overwhelm us now. Know which colours suit your skin tone. If you don’t know if you are warm or cool then go to a make up counter and try on yellow and blue based lipstick and blush colors to see what suits you best.

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  • Consider what decade you learned to apply makeup and if you are still using those techniques and colours, it is time to up-date.
  •  Too much eyeliner. Rather than a liquid eyeliner, try an eye pencil and smudge a bit after application to soften the line. Or apply eye shadow with a small angled brush as the liner. For more info read How to apply eyeliner after 40.
  •  Don’t match your eye shadow colour to your outfit. We’re not in the 1980’s anymore. Go for a softer, natural look and avoid shimmer as this will magnify any crepiness.
  •  Say no to thick full coverage foundation. Consider a tinted moisturizer or a lighter weight foundation and apply only to the centre of the face and blend outwards. Also see: the best foundation for mature skin.
  •  Avoid too dark or matte lipsticks. Our lips thin with age and a dark or matte colour will make lips look even thinner. Try a crème or pearl colour and rather than dark go for a brighter or lighter colour. Check out some of Sylvia’s favorite lipsticks.
  • Too dark a lip liner. Lip liners should match the lipstick colour.
  •  Over plucked eyebrows. As most of us have found out, our eyebrows do not grow back. To compensate, use a powder or pencil to fill in the sparse areas. Also check: how to get the perfect eyebrows.
  •  As with clothes, choose one star and the rest as supporting players. If you are wearing a dramatic lipstick, keep the blush and eye shadows softer.- Too much blush and in the wrong area. Apply sparingly along the cheek bone and blend, blend, blend.

2. Eyeglasses or sunglasses that are years old or no longer fashionable.

Eyeglasses and sunglasses follow trends just as fashion does and should be considered just as necessary to update.

  • If you have prescription glasses a good reminder to change is when you get a new prescription.
  • If you have changed your hair colour or if you go grey, you may want to consider a lighter colour or a silver frame.
  • An easy and inexpensive way to modernize your style is to pick up a few pair of sunglasses. Perhaps a sportier and an elegant pair for different outfits.
  • Consider your face shape, skin tone and personality when selecting glasses. Our face shape and colouring will change with age, so you may need to select a different frame shape and colour now. Also check: How to find the right glasses.

3. Hairstyle or hair colour that hasn’t changed in years.

How long is too long to keep the same hairstyle or colour? The running joke is that if you’ve had the same style for so long that it’s popular again. Seriously, if your hairstyle is from another decade, it’s time to change.

Our hair changes with age. It may get thinner, courser, less curly or frizzier. Our face shape may also change, so a hairstyle that suited us in our 30’s may not be the most flattering in our 50’s.

  •  Youthful looking hair has movement. Stay away from too many styling products and too much hairspray as this will make hair look stiff and unnatural.
  •  One overall dark colour is aging. A few highlights around the face and crown will add softness and create a more natural look.
  • Highlights, lowlights, ombre or balayage will add interest, definition and a modern look with any hair colour.
  •  Grey hair can be dry, frizzy or course. If you’ve let your hair go naturally grey, you should use specialized products for grey hair to keep it moisturized and prevent yellowing. If you’re wondering whether you should go grey or not, you may enjoy the discussion in our article: To grey or not to grey.
  • Consider your hair texture. If you have curly hair and fought with it all your life you may want to go with your natural curls now.  You may like to check: how to manage curly hair.
  • When you get a new haircut, have your hairstylist show you how to style it. Styling techniques and products have changed over the years.
  • Even if a classic haircut such as a bob is your style of choice, you can tweak it with more layers, less layers, angled or longer or shorter. Even subtle changes make a difference.

Check this article for more fabulous grey hairstyles.

Remember change is good and think of all the possibilities and fun you’ll have making those changes.

For more tips on staying youthful after 40, check out our tips on how to dress after 40 and still look hip.

How do you keep yourself modern and hip and what do you think will date us and make us look older?

Author bio: Yvonne Grzebien’s passion for fashion started at a young age through modelling and then progressed to working in the fashion and cosmetics business for many years. She also has training as a Colours Consultant. Yvonne lives in Canada and when the weather permits you will find her on the golf course.



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{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

Joan Kosmachuk

This is a great list and I’d add one more — wearing the wrong colors can really age you. The right colors make you glow, the wrong colors highlight the bags under your eyes, they make you look sallow or grey or white. Make sure that you choose colors that are harmonious with you. Some of the colors you were able to pull off in your youth may not be doing you any favors now.


Yvonne Grzebien

Great point Joan. Wearing the right colours is even more important as we get older.


Lea McCain

I think, wearing the wrong shoes and jewelry can age you. Also, don’t forget about taking good care of your teeth.


alinta okan

hair too tidy, clothes, hairdos, makeup, shoes which you wore in your youth. Posture and body language can make a person look very old.


Susan Street

You have such great information to share Yvonne. I look forward to your next guest post. Thank you!



Where can an older woman go to learn how to apply and purchase makeup? I have gone to department stores in the makeup departments and the women would have no eye contact with me. They only want young women. I went to Sephora once and she made me look like a clown. Thank you.



It sounds like you have been very unlucky. Perhaps you can try Bobbi Brown. As with any makeup store the quality depends largely on the person that helps you though. You can find some of our beauty tips at https://40plusstyle.com/category/beauty-tips-for-women/


Alice D Bergeron

If you have an Ultra Store, they usually have a consultant there to help you. You have to ask. But she matched me perfectly for foundation a lipstick.


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