Quite a while ago I bought the book You Being Beautiful from famous doctors Oz and Roizen whom you may have seen on Oprah. It goes into detail about all aspects of beauty.
Today I want to dive a bit deeper into the subject of beauty. And specifically, how important is it to fuss over it as we age? To start the topic off here are some quotes from the book.
“This kind of traditional beauty ‘the outer kind’ really isn’t just about looking good. The outer beauty serves as a proxy of how healthy you are. It’s the message you send to others about your health.”
That’s pretty powerful. Your exterior will actually give people information about your health. This one makes sense to me. No one likes to be welcomed with the exclamation: “Do you feel alright. You look tired”? That is also an important reason why many of us will do our best to look good in any situation. The only problem is, this is getting harder and harder as we age. How far are we willing to go to avoid the ‘tired’ look?
Here’s another one.
“In fact research shows that human beings have evolved universal standards of beauty, both within and across cultures. Research also shows that attractive people are also judged more positively than unattractive people even when there’s other available information available about them.”
That’s a big one. Now you may not like those quotes. You may not believe them or your may think that beauty is not that important. But I think many of us will see examples around us or have experienced in their own lives that beauty DOES matter. People are judged by their cover. More beautiful people tend to have better careers and more money.
“Looking as good as you like helps you feel good about yourself, which serves as the foundation for developing that sense of authenticity and deeper purpose which so many of us crave as we search for meaning in our lives. Plus being authentic and happier makes you physically more attractive.”
Looking good definitely makes me feel better about myself. This is the reason why I have to shop on a regular basis to buy clothes that make me feel good and will go to the hairdresser and spend a fortune on coloring. In the end, it makes ME feel better. There’s no getting around it. Mind you, in my case, I’m more fussed about clothes than I’m with makeup. On most days I will hardly wear any makeup at all. I also believe that feeling happy has a big impact on your beauty. Doing something you love and having good relationships around you are all crucially important.
“Beauty is also about how you feel and how you define your life. These three elements look, feel, be, work together to form what we believe is the ultimate goal in all of our lives. To feel good about yourself because you have strong self esteem and a healthy energetic existence that allows you to appreciate the subtle beauty of day-to-day life”
This is very important too. It’s certainly not only about the clothes. You need to look after your emotional and physical needs as well. If you are healthy and energetic you will automatically feel better and look more beautiful. It’s about finding the right balance and making the right choices, in terms of our diets, our skincare regime, our fitness plan, our socializing, our inner development but also our beauty products and style choices. All of these combine to make us feel good and therefore to look great externally as well.
So how much effort do we put into it?
This is the question I struggle with most though. No matter how well we accomplish some of the balance described above, it does get increasingly hard to look good as we age. How much money do we spend on beautifying ourselves? On massage, on clothing, on make-up, on beauty treatments? What is the price of (preserving) our beauty? The price of feeling good about ourselves in terms of how we look? Do you feel you have found the right balance? Do you have a beauty (and fashion) budget?
I would love to hear your views!