Wearing high heels can be a pain – quite literally. And, I’m definitely not a believer in the old “beauty is pain” adage. But, you don’t have to give up your heels completely to be comfortable.

You really don’t have to forgo comfort for style. And, here in this article to prove it are the most comfortable heels you can wear, which both look and feel amazing.

Comfortable high heels

You might want to wear high heels because you would like to add extra height.

Or, you may want to add heels for a formal occasion, for work, or because you simply think a certain outfit looks better with heels.

Whatever the reason, you will want to make sure that the heels you choose are comfortable for your feet as well as looking stylish.

 Check out our tips on how to look taller.

The best types of comfy heels to choose

I definitely won’t wear anything that hurts. If you too have turned your back on heels which aren’t kind to your feet, what types of heels should you look for?

The best types of heels for comfort are likely to be kitten heels, block heels and platform heels because either they don’t have skyscraper heels, or they have wider heels, making them easier to walk in. I’d stick with heels around 3-inches or lower.

So, you can certainly combine being trendy and stylish with being comfortable. Plus, lower heels are on trend right now, so you can be comfy and trendy.

I like shopping for heels on Nordstrom because you can define your search by heel height and by height type.

Best of all, these styles are definitely on trend right now. Check out this article on the best shoe trends for fall and winter 2022.

What to look out for when choosing a pair of comfortable heels

Have you ever bought a pair of heels which look fabulous, only to find you wear them once or twice and then push them to the back of your closet because they are so uncomfortable.

I know it’s a mistake that I’ve made. Here are some things to look out for if you want to ensure that the heels you opt for are comfortable:

Choose the right heel height for you

A comfortable height for one woman is not necessarily a comfortable height for someone else. Don’t opt for 4-inch stilettos just because they look good. Generally, a height between 2-inches and 3-inches will be best.

Most comfortable heels - Greetje wears blue block heels | 40plusstyle.com

Greetje @no_fear_of_fashion above (read her style interview here) opts for on-trend block heels.

Get her look with this similar top, trousers, slingback pumps, handbag, earrings and belt.

Make sure you get the right fit

It’s always important to get the right fit in any shoe. But, with high heels, you definitely don’t want them pinching or slipping on and off your feet. Just like clothes, you will find that some brands fit you better. As well as shoe size, ensure you opt for the right width for your feet.

Look for soles with cushioning

Wearing high heels puts more pressure on your feet, particularly on the balls of your feet. Look out for shoes which have cushioned soles (or you can always add a cushioned insert).

Most comfortable heels - Dayle wears wedge sandals | 40plusstyle.com

Dayle @artfulcitystyle above (read het style interview here) chooses wedge style Fly London sandals with her dress.

Steal her look with this similar dress (another option here), sandals, necklace and bracelet.

Want more support from your shoes? Check out the best shoes with arch support.

Pointed or round?

Heels can be tricky to wear. Pointed toes can also be hard to wear if you don’t get the fit just right as they could squeeze your toes. So, when you put the two together, you could find pointed heels are uncomfortable to wear. If you want to make sure that your toes aren’t squished, then you could look for a round toe (or an open toe in warmer weather).

Opt for natural materials

Leather and suede are often more forgiving for your feet as they stretch and “give” a little with wear, molding to your feet, while manmade materials can be less flexible.

The most comfortable heels for women over 40 | 40plusstyle.com

Eugenia @theeageofgrace above (read her style interview here) keeps her outfit neutral and wears a pair of beige pumps.

Check out this similar sweater, pants, pumps (another option here), bag and sunglasses.

Try on your shoes in the afternoon

Whether you are buying in person or trying on your online purchase, it’s best to try on your shoes in the afternoon. That’s because your feet swell a little and change shape during the day. So, the shoes that fit you in the morning may feel too tight in the afternoon. The ones that fit in the afternoon are the ones you should buy.

Types of comfortable heels to look out for

Now that you are considering what heel height and shoe shape might be best for you, below are some of the most comfortable heel styles to choose from, whether you are looking for heels for an evening out, for a special occasion, for work, or just for everyday.

Kitten heels

Short and slender, kitten heels are generally around 1.5-inches in height, so are definitely more comfortable to walk in than many other types of heels.

Not only that, but they’re very much on trend for spring and summer 2020, with designers including Balmain, Dior and Giorgio Armani showcasing small-is-beautiful heels on their runways.

Calvin Klein Gabrianna Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Calvin Klein Gabrianna Pump
Amazon / Zappos

Low heels

Another great comfy heels option, either for work or for everyday, are these Diva pumps below.

You’ll always find this style in stock, although new colors are added each season. You can also opt for leather or suede.

They are made from Italian leather and feature a cushioned insole and elastic back to stop slipping.

SARTO by Franco Sarto Diva Pointed Toe Pump | 40plusstyle.com

SARTO by Franco Sarto Diva Pointed Toe Pump

Or, you could try the Everlane heels (below), which are some of the most comfortable heels for standing all day – a great everyday option. They have lots of great reviews from women who say they fit like a glove.

Everlane The Italian Leather Day Heel | 40plusstyle.com

Everlane The Italian Leather Day Heel

Block heels

Because you are giving yourself more surface area to walk on, you will find a block heel much more comfortable to wear than thinner heels.

You may even find that even if you choose a higher pair, they are still easier to walk in because of the width of the heel.

Plus, you’re not going to get your heel caught in anything as you walk, or run the risk of your foot turning over onto its side if you wobble.

If you’re heading into summer, you will be thinking about sandals and shoes which let your feet breathe.

These Naturalizer Banks pumps are a classic. They have a fresh take on a block heel, making a heel which is wide yet still manages to be delicate. You could opt for black leather or suede, or a nude style if you are looking for a leg-lengthening effect.

Naturalizer Banks Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Naturalizer Banks Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom

For comfy high heels on a budget, you could try the Dream Pairs pumps (below). They come in a good choice of colors, and wearers say they are beautfiul, but they do advise to size up.

Most comfortable heels - Dream Pairs pumps | 40plusstyle.com

DREAM PAIRS Block Heel Pump

Most comfortable heels - Jess wears classic pumps | 40plusstyle.com

Jess @elegantlydressedandstylish above (read her style interview here) wears a pair of classic pumps.

Recreate her outfit with this similar dress, jacket (another option here), pumps, clutch and earrings.

For more inspiration, read our article on what shoes to wear with different styles of pants.

Angled heels

A similar take on the block heel which is particularly on trend this year, the angled heel still offers a wide heel to walk on but with a stylish twist.

Vionic Jacynda Pointed Toe Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Vionic Jacynda Pointed Toe Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom

Comfortable heels for work

As you head into your 40s and beyond, where you work, the way you work, and even if you work may change.

But, if you do need, or want, a pair of high heels for work, the last thing you want is to suffer through your working day with aching feet.

Naturalizer is always a good go-to for comfortable heels and you will find a number of classic pumps which will add some timeless style to your closet.

The Clarks pump comes in a classic style with a wide block heel.

Clarks Linvale Jerica Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Clarks Linvale Jerica Pump

For more inspiration check out our article on what shoes to wear with different styles of pants

Comfortable pumps

A pair of pumps is a true wardrobe staple that you can wear with everything from a pencil skirt to a pair of jeans.

You can choose any heel height from an inch to four inches – whatever you feel comfortable with.

They’re such a versatile pair of shoes too. You can go with any number of classic options or patterns like leopard print to bring something new to your outfits.

Trotters Kiera Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Trotters Kiera Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom

Another choice is the LifeStride pump (below) which come in a big choice of colors. Reviewers say they are super comfortable.

LifeStride Parigi Dress Pump | 40plusstyle.com

LifeStride Parigi Dress Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom


A platform heel is another idea if you want to add height without walking on a traditional heel. Platforms elevate the ball of your foot as well as your heel, so they tend to be more comfortable to walk in than high heels.

Naturalizer Talissa Platform Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Naturalizer Talissa Platform Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom

For a casual platform sandal, you could look out for Crocs sandals – much more stylish than the original Crocs.

Crocs Brooklyn Low Wedge Sandal | 40plusstyle.com

Crocs Brooklyn Low Wedge Sandal
Amazon / Zappos

Most comfortable heels - Emms wears wedge sandals | 40plusstyle.com

Emms @beautifuleveryday_uk above wears a dress from M&Co and teams it with tan heeled sandals.

Check out these similar sandals and handbag to complete the look.

Comfortable black heels

Most women will have a pair, or several pairs, of black heels in their closet. But, how comfortable are yours?

You could of course, choose any number of styles of black heels, and they will be on trend for many years to come.

Naturalizer Karina Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Naturalizer Karina Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom

Comfortable wedges

If you’ve been following me for a while now, you will know how much I love my Fly London sandals.

I have the Yala wedge which is 2.25 inches in height, but it feels lower because there’s a 1-inch platform.

They’re comfortable and a little bit quirky, so you can add some individual style to your outfits.

Comfortable Heels - Fly London Yone Suede Wedge Sandal | 40plusstyle.com

Fly London Yone Suede Wedge Sandal

For a dressier take on the wedge, you could try the Nine West pumps (below). They come in a choice of neutral shades, and reviewers say they are cushiony and easy to walk in.

NINE WEST Cal9x9 Pump | 40plusstyle.com

NINE WEST Cal9x9 Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom

Comfortable sandals with heels

Sandals with heels are another incredibly versatile shoe.

You can pack for evenings out on vacation or wear to more formal occasions such as summer weddings or events.

Or, if you find a comfy pair, you can wear for day-to-day wear with a pair of jeans and a blazer.

These platform pumps from DREAM PAIRS add some height and have a heel that is wide enough to walk in.

DREAM PAIRS Sparkly Strappy Sandals | 40plusstyle.com

DREAM PAIRS Sparkly Strappy Sandals

Most comfortable heels - Jas wears silver heels | 40plusstyle.com

Jas @thefashionstylefile above wears metallic heels with her white dress.

Check out this white dress (another option here) that you can wear with this similar pair of sandals, clutch and earrings.

Most comfortable stilettos

If you do want to add a few inches, then stilettos are usually the highest heels you can choose. Most come in 4-inch heel heights. But, they can be much more difficult to walk in because they feature a tapering heel which narrows at the bottom.

While you are unlikely to want to wear them everyday – after all, even Victoria Beckham has given up her stiletto habit in favor of more comfortable shoes – you might want to don a pair of stilettos occasionally.

Maybe you save your stilettos for times when you know you will be on your feet for a limited amount of time, such as a dinner event.

You can opt for a classic shade, go for something bright like red or pink, or choose a pattern like florals or snakeprint which are bang on trend this year.

Comfortable Heels - Rockport Piece Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Rockport Piece Pump
Amazon / Zappos / Nordstrom

Most comfortable heels - Cole Haan pumps | 40plusstyle.com

Cole Haan Grand Ambition Pump

Comfortable sandals

Everyone needs at least one comfortable pair of sandals for summer. These sandals from Sofft (below) feature a stacked heel, making them perfect for summer and transitional weather as we move from summer to fall.

Comfortable heels - Söfft Mendi Sandal | 40plusstyle.com

Söfft Mendi Sandal
Zappos / Nordstrom

Flared heel

A different take on the kitten heel, the flared heel is a nod to the 90s and was featured on many of the designer runways for this season.

YEOJOU Knit Pump | 40plusstyle.com

YEOJOU Knit Pump

Stacked heel

Usually featuring a wooden sole and heel, the stacked heel starts off wide and narrows towards the base, but it still provides a wide heel to walk on.

Comfortable heels - Journee Collection Sophie Bootie | 40plusstyle.com

Journee Collection Sophie Bootie

Most comfortable heels - Fonda wears white boots | 40plusstyle.com

Fonda @savvysouthernchic above opts for cream boots with her white jeans. Note that wearing a pair of boots in a similar color to your jeans or pants has a leg-lengthening effect.

Recreate her outfit with this similar sweater, jeans, booties and necklace.

Most comfortable designer heels

If you’re thinking about investing in a pair of designer heels, then you’ll want to ensure they are comfortable, you can walk in them, and they are a classic style so you can wear them for many years to come.

Prada Vernice Logo Slingback Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Prada Vernice Logo Slingback Pump

Manolo Blahnik Hangisi Crystal Buckle Pump | 40plusstyle.com

Manolo Blahnik Hangisi Crystal Buckle Pump

How to make heels more comfortable

If you do already have heels in your closet that you would love to wear, but which are uncomfortable, you may still be able to find a solution.

Before you gift or donate them, you could try wearing shoe inserts.

You can find high heel comfort inserts on Amazon. Depending on where you suffer any discomfort, or just to prevent any soreness before it happens, you can find pads for the balls of your feet, or heel grips to stop any slipping on the back of your feet.

Walkize metatarsal pads | 40plusstyle.com

Walkize Metatarsal Pads

FOCONEE high heel cushion silicone shoe pads | 40plusstyle.com

FOCONEE High Heel Cushion Silicone Shoe Pads

Dr. Scholl's Ball of Foot Cushions for High Heels | 40plusstyle.com

Dr. Scholl’s Ball of Foot Cushions for High Heels

Dr. Scholl's Stylish Step High Heel Relief Insoles | 40plusstyle.com

Dr. Scholl’s Stylish Step High Heel Relief Insoles

It may be worth trying one of these options before you give up on your heels completely.

What are the most comfortable brands of high heel?

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What are the most comfortable heels you have ever worn? Let me know in the comments below so you can help to turn this into a fantastic resource for other women searching for comfortable high heels. 

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