How to break the plus size style rules and look amazing!

by Sylvia

How to break the style rules for plus size women and look amazing |

Today I bring you an article from Delilah who will write more regularly for 40+Style specifically on plus size topics. To get to know her better, you may like to read her style interview here.

I am often stopped on the streets by other plus size women and told, You look great, but I could never pull that off. After thanking the individual, I normally respond, Oh, but you can!

The fashion industry has always dictated to women how to achieve the perfect look through clothing.

For plus size woman, it seems we are generally advised not to wear:

  • large prints
  • bright colors
  • horizontal stripes
  • body conscious clothing
  • anything white
  • sleeveless blouses, etc.

The basic messages we’ve received, up until a few years ago, was to hide under large, unshapely garments and conceal your imperfections in a predominately black wardrobe.

As a person who loves to express herself through clothing, the only rules I follow are to wear clothes that fit well and to dress for the body I have now.

I know my body type (an inverted triangle), and which silhouettes look best on me, yet I dress in a way that makes me feel happy and confident. I adore A-line skirts & dresses, full leg trousers & jeans, but I also wear clothing that some suggest are not suited for my body shape such as skinny jeans, pencil skirts, and shift dresses.

It’s worth noting that I think it’s time to defy “plus size fashion rules,” because doing so opens up an infinite number of fashion possibilities.

Besides, we all have the right to look and feel fabulous, confident, and stylish regardless of our size.

So here is how I break the rules!

Horizontal stripes and brights are a plus size woman’s worst enemy


Wearing white brings attention to problem areas


Bold prints are a fashion NO NO!


Denim highlights problem areas


Plus size women should stay away from wearing colors and prints


Do you break any ‘rules’ for your body type?


Plus size fashion blogger behind Pumps & Studz. Lover of black & white, hats, and all things sparkly.

P.S. You may also like our list of the best online stores and brands for plus size women. And if you have recommendation of a favorite brand or shop, let us know!

{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Patti

Great post! Nice to meet you, Delilah, you’ve got fabulous style.


2 Delilah

Thank you!


3 Jodie filogomo

I love this era that “rules” are thrown away!! It’s true for the petite realm too! jodie
ps…Sylvia, I’m not sure if anyone else has this problem, but for the last couple of days, when I try to link to your site through bloglovin’…it comes up blank (and only for your site). Could just be me?


4 Sylvia

Hi Jodie. Thanks for alerting me. I had to block all content loaded in iframes as another site is pretending that all the content is theirs and they loaded all the content through an iframe. Of course Bloglovin does this too… Not sure how to solve this yet as I don’t want this other site running away with my content.


5 Jeannie

Dear Silvia, you are wonderful. I loved your outfit of gray and white and quickly go to the seller who is ALWAYS all sold out. Oh well. Today’s plus size article is just fantastic. Plus size women get the same cut and tablecloth version of dresses to select. Delilah wear other things well. A loyal fan, Jeannie


6 Greetje

This is what we need. More confident women who break rules and have fun with fashion. Delilah seems very confident and I can understand that women stop her in the street.
She reminds me of Georgette (Grown and curvy).


7 Marie

Do you have a link to Georgette? Thanks. If she’s anything like Delilah, I’d like to follow her too!


8 Sylvia
9 Judy

Love this article on plus size women! I think we all break the rules once in a while.. Delilah, you look amazing! Love all of your photos…


10 Danelle


I am also an inverted triangle, and your rule breaking looks made my day.


11 Lisa

I love this article and am glad Delilah will be a regular here!


12 Anja

Oh you rock the rule breakin’! I do break the rule for tall women – I do like to wear killer heels even though I am 6’3” already without them! My man loves it!


13 Shirley

Very classy outfits. Love the white and tan best!


14 Delilah

Thanks, everyone!! I appreciate all the wonderful & supportive comments!!


15 Petra

Wonderful Delilah 🙂 Particularly love you in the white dress with little beige jacket – you look GORGEOUS!

Thanks Sylvia for sharing Delilah with us 🙂


16 Rebecca

Such a stylish woman. Thanks for interviewing Delilah. Although I am not a plus sized woman, I love to see the diversity and beauty of the women you have featured. There is inspiration for us all whatever our age or size!


17 Enith

Really nice post! And all the “breaking rules” looks just gorgeous!! Congrats!


18 Valerie

Love, love, LOVE this! Thank you so much! I really struggle with being plus-sized, but your tips are fun and funky and just may get me out of my oversized shirts and jeans. Thank you.


19 Tracey B. Nelson

This top is beautiful! I love the lines – while it is bohemian, it also looks classic and simple. I think it looks fabulous on you – shoes or no shoes on the print. I wouldn’t even have seen that if you hadn’t mentioned it!


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