Have you ever thought of reinventing yourself or finally realizing your dreams? In this article, let’s look at how to reinvent yourself after 40.
How to reinvent yourself after 40
So you’ve turned 40 or perhaps 50 or 60 or 70 and perhaps you have experienced this feeling of restlessness.
I get it every 7 years or so; the 7 year itch!
Here’s what tends to happen.
You’re not quite happy where you are in this point of your life.
You may feel a bit stuck or perhaps a bit subdued.
You think back of a time when you had lots of hopes and dreams for yourself and now you find yourself at a certain age and many of these dreams are unfulfilled.
Or you’re in a job you don’t enjoy.
Or you’ve always wanted to travel more but you never seem to have the time nor the money.
Or you’re in a relationships that just doesn’t fulfill you.
Or you’ve never come to terms with your body and half the time you simply don’t feel confident or happy with yourself.
It’s never too late to fulfill your dreams!
Whatever it is that you want to change, it’s not too late.
However, when you start to think about these dreams and are perhaps taking steps to fulfill them, all kinds of doubts enter your head.
Doubts you may have that stop you from reinventing yourself
Perhaps you feel it’s too late to realise your dreams. “I should have done this earlier”.
I can’t do it.
Perhaps you feel doubt about your ability to change or to achieve your goal.
You feel stuck.
You feel that family, your house or other circumstances lock you in and it’s impossible to get out.
You’re scared ahead of time.
Changing just feels too uncomfortable.
But here is the good and the bad news:
Being uncomfortable is part of reinventing yourself
But Sylvia, you may wonder, why should I change?
Life is good in many ways and you feel comfortable in it.
Just thinking about your dreams makes you feel uncomfortable, so you’d rather not think about them. Much better just to enjoy yourself and watch Netflix right?
But then, deep inside, that thought keeps lingering.
I want more, I’m capable of more.
I’m 49 and I still have many more years in this beautiful life. I want to experience more of it and travel.
If you have ever been feeling this way then it’s time to get comfortable with discomfort.
Also find more on this in my article on how to build self confidence
And the good news is: discomfort is just a sensation in your body. You can cope with a sensation in your body and I’ll teach you how to do it!
Let’s look again at some things that you want
Hare are just a few responses from a recent survey I did:
I want to know what I want to do. I need clarity!
I’ve always been there to serve others but have never stood still long enough to understand what’s important to myself.
I want more freedom and travel more.
I want to accept my body and be confident with who I am.
I want to get healthy again and stop eating too much.
I want to make more money doing something I love,
I want to be in a relationship that inspires me,
I want to get out of my shell, go out more and make new friends.
No matter what it is that you want, you can make a choice to go and get it!
Why do we want what we want? Why do we want to reinvent ourselves?
The answer is usually that we want to feel a certain way.
You want to feel happier.
You want life to be easier.
You want to feel loved.
You think that life will be 10x better once you’ve accomplished your new goal.
But then when you start the process of reinvention, you may start to feel uncomfortable (because new things always feel uncomfortable).
You may start to second guess yourself:
Hey, I wanted to feel better and happier! But instead I feel all this discomfort. This is not what I signed up for! Let’s get comfortable again.
You need to be very aware when this happens, because bofore you know it, you may slip into old habits again.
But also know this: life is 50 – 50
Discomfort is definitely part of growth.
But even if you succeed in achieving you goal, you will not feel happy all the time.
Life is 50-50. There are always going to be things that will make you feel uncomfortable.
There will always be challenges.
The beauty is that they may be different challenges from what you had before.
For example the new challenge may be: how am I going to manage all these new customers , rather than how am I going to get my first customer.
But no matter where you are, there will always be moments where life just sucks a bit. When you know this, you can just accept those moments and feel them.
And then proceed with all your big plans!
So if I will not get the happiness and comfort as a reward, why reinvent myself then?
Here is why it’s still worth it.
You will get SO much more satisfaction from achieving one of your goals than watching your favorite Netflix movie.
You’ll learn so much in the process too.
You’ll get stronger, braver, more confident, may have more money to spend and more free time to plan as you wish.
How my life has changed a lot
For example when I think of myself, my life is VERY different from what it was 20 years ago. Or even 10 years ago.
20 years ago, I was at complete loss, very low on self esteem and had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.
I shared a bit of that story in this video.
10 years ago, I had moved to a different country and wasn’t happy with my business.
I feel so much more confident, so much more freedom, I developed so many more skills, which is all because I decided to go outside my comfort zone and try something new.
I reinvented myself from an employee to an entrepreneur.
Then I reinvented myself again from a service provider doing pay per hour services for others to creating an asset for myself by establishing my own website.
Now I’m reinventing again as I’ve completed coach certification and will focus more of my time to helping women over 40 get the life they want.
You can hear a bit more about why I did that in this video.
Also, if you’re curious what a coach is and does, check out this video.
The bottom line is, I’m more confident, have more money, have a business I love that allows me to travel and have friends that inspire me.
At the same time, I’m still happily married and have a son who is soon going off to uni. Going after your dreams and fulfilling your personal needs doesn’t have to come at the expense of your family and friends!
I have a big hairy goal that I want to accomplish in the next 5 years and it’s making me feel uncomfortable for sure!
Not only will achieving this goal give me all the freedom I crave, it will also allow me to GROW even more as a person as I will need to fail forward, challenge myself and overcome obstacles.
It will be challenging but will also give me much joy as I will involve you in the process.
I want to be an example of what’s possible.
I want to help YOU achieve your dreams and goals, help you to grow and be incredibly proud of yourself!
How do you want to reinvent yourself?
Here are just some ideas on the different ways you can reinvent yourself after 40 in various parts of your life!
Reinvent your Style
#1 Change your mindset on what you can and cannot wear
Do you have the feeling that now that you have a certain age, you cannot wear certain things?
Perhaps it’s time to challenge those ideas. There truly is no limit to what you can wear after 40 and look amazing.
The key is that you need to wear what you love with confidence.
You may like to read my article on how to get out of a style rut which dives deeper into your excuses and why I don’t accept them.
#2 Wear colors that you have never worn before
We tend to get stuck in a rut when it comes to colors. Start playing with new combinations.
Check out our color guides for inspiration.
#3 Play with different styles
Do you know your style personality? Finding out may give you some ideas on what kind of style you like.
You can take our style personality quiz.
Although we may gravitate to one style personality, we often incorporate elements of several.
Have fun playing with different ideas and styles!
#4 Get a new haircut
The difference of a new haircut should not be underestimated.
A haircut that suits your face shape and your style personality can make the difference between you looking drab and old and modern, vibrant and hip. It’s worth the investment!
#5 Add a bit of makeup
Makeup is another area where just a little bit of color can make a huge difference.
Do you always stick to neutrals, try a brighter color.
Have you never worn eye shadow or tried a smokey eye, give it a try and see how it makes you feel.
Reinvent Your Lifestyle
#6 Start a new hobby
Has your life become a bit stale and without excitement?
Why not try taking up a new hobby or learn a new skill?
Have you always wanted to do something creative, take a class! If you love photography then why not start learning how to create these yourself?
Once you find something that you love and can pour a lot of your energy in, you feel energized and alive.
The extra benefit is that you will often meet a lot of new interesting people too (both on or offline).
#7 Do something scary, like going on a trip by yourself or with a friend
Are there things you have always wanted to do but you are just too scared to do them?
Perhaps it’s going to a restaurant by yourself?
Or booking a trip for one?
It’s never too late to push boundaries and if there are things on your bucket list that you would like to do but cannot find others to do those with, try to do them by yourself.
Travel is a good example.
Don’t wait before others will join but take the leap yourself.
You can start training yourself to do something that feels just a little bit scary every day.
One year from now, you you will find yourself doing things you never thought you would be able to.
Career & Business
#8 Go back to work
Are you a stay-at-home mum or empty nester that would like a new challenge?
There are lots of opportunities on and offline to get back to work. Many of these new jobs didn’t even exist 10 years ago.
Here are just a few of the kind of freelancers I have hired in my business:
- Community manager
- Copy writer
- Ads manager
- Style advisor
- Graphic designer
- web Developer
Sites like upwork.com make it easy for anyone with a skill to bid for projects at any time.
Don’t have the desired skills yet? Train yourself in one of the many online courses.
#9 Start a business
It’s never been easier to start a business.
You can set yourself up as a freelancer and offer your services on sites like Upwork.
Or you can start a blog and turn it into a business as I have done.
The best thing is that you can start an online business even when you are still in a permanent job.
Even as little as 15 min a day can make a huge difference towards achieving the dream of starting your own business.
Want some ideas? Check out these business ideas for women over 40.
Health and Wellness
#10 Stop buffering or stop bad habits
If you have been eating too much, drinking too much, buying too much or watching too much TV, you’re buffering.
When you buffer too much you are taking away time from the tasks that are important to you and that will help you achieve your long-term goals.
Or you are sacrificing your health which will also prevent you from reaching your long-term goals.
If you are buffering in an area of your life, you may like to set a goal for yourself to use that time for things that get you closer to your goals.
#11 Get fit and strong
When I recently did a survey on what you want most, this was the option that was ticked most.
It’s so important to stay strong and fit as we get older. But we often have so many other things to do, that we forget that this is crucial.
Set yourself a goal to do daily or weekly exercize, plan food in advance and eat healthy and quit sugar.
My secret weapon: 85% dark chocolate. It has almost completely eliminated my desire for sugar and has helped my menopausal tummy weight!
Relationships & family
#12 Make some new friends
It’s true that making your friends after your forties can get tougher. Most people already have their set friends.
But there are still lots of opportunities to meet new people.
- Join an education class
- Start a new hobby
- Organise a meetup
- Connect in local facebook groups
- Become active for a cause you believe in
- Do volunteer work
Getting new friends takes commitment and time but the investment of both can be so worth it.
There are so many more ideas!
These ideas are just the tip of the iceberg of what’s possible and I will add more ideas to this later.
The truth is, it’s never too late to reinvent yourself and create the life you want for yourself.
Even if you don’t quite believe it.
It starts by taking small steps and perhaps spend 15 minutes a day on what you want to change.
We all have 15 minutes per day spare, so start using them wisely. In fact all of us have the same 24 hours in a day. It’s up to you to decide what to do with them.
Do you know what you really, REALLY want?
Sometimes, you find it hard to change, because you don’t know what you want yet.
That’s a whole different topic and one I will tackle at a later time.
If this is a topic that you’re interested in, you may already like to sign up for the True Potential Bucket List challenge below.
Let me know what you want!
For now, I would love to hear from you in a comment below.
What do you really, really want? Is there an area in your life where you want to reinvent yourself or set bigger goals?
If you haven’t yet done so, and you prefer to let me know in private (which can be done anonymously) you can also fill in this form.
I look forward to seeing your comments and reading your feedback!
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