This is not the most happiest of subjects to write about but when I recently unexpectedly had to attend the funeral of a close relative, I realised that this is an important topic that needs to be addressed on this site.

Although dress codes for funerals have become a lot more casual in the last years, I still feel it is important to dress in a respectful manner at a funeral. I was in The Netherlands at the time and upon enquiring found that just about anything goes at a funeral there these days. That definitely turned out to be the case as people were wearing all kinds of clothes. Even sneakers and jeans and brightly colored clothes.

I have to admit I personally feel that this is not appropriate. I feel that you need to make an effort to dress respectfully, in a sober manner and appropriately dressy. But I would love to have your opinion on this as well.

Here are some of my guidelines on what I believe you should wear to a funeral

  • Dress in muted colors. Black is always a good option but any other hues in dark muted colors are also good.
  • You don’t have to go all black. A suit with a white or light shirt will look very appropriate.
  • It’s ok to wear prints but keep them demure and preferably in dark muted colors.
  • Don’t dress too fashionable. You are there to pay your respects not to show yourself off.
  • Both dresses, skirts and pants can look equally good.
  • Dress for elegance.
  • Do not show too much skin and keep your outfit modest.
  • You can add a personal touch of flair, depending on the person for whom the funeral is for.
  • If you wear a dark overcoat, you can add a scarf in a different color or print to soften the black.

I realise that these guidelines are quite general and especially aimed at western culture, so I would love to have your input.

What is appropriate funeral attire for your country and / or culture?

Do you feel that there should be dress code for funerals or do you feel that anything goes?

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Sylvia

Sylvia is 40+style’s editor-in-chief and has been helping women find their unique style since 2011. An alumni of the School of Color and Design, she is devoted to empowering women of any age to look and feel their best. Read more about Sylvia and 40+style on this page.

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