Stylish this week

by Sylvia

MYthology singapore opening

This week I’ve been busy preparing for an amazing celebration of 40PlusStyle’s blogaversary. I have more than $4000 worth of very stylish prizes lined up for you, which can be won by a total of 31 people worldwide! Mark your calendars and be sure to enter from 11-17 October in the biggest giveaway of the year! Over the coming weeks, I will tell you more about each individual sponsor and the prizes to be won.

New Singapore shop: MYthology

Mythology Singapore

I’ve also been to the opening of a great new shop here in Singapore. This shop is definitely one to watch. Exquisite silk dresses and tops in numerous colours are just a few of the highlights from this new boutique in Singapore’s hip Club Street. It stocks several brands from around Asia. As you can see from the pictures above, all the guests looked superbly stylish that evening. At the top right you can see Rana, who has her own fashion blog here in Singapore focusing on independent designers. She helped select some of the labels sold in the store and is wearing one of them (Toton) in the picture. I also bumped into one of my son’s former teachers while there, which was a surprise.

MYthology is open for business and can be found at 88 Club Street in Singapore.

In the forum

The stylers in the forum are embracing their colours. Greetje looks wonderful in a a bright coloured dress as well as Tangobabe. Marianne was inspired by my article on the black and blue trend and applied it to great effect. Greetje has also been showing of her new coach bag that has been a topic of discussion in the comments here and here.

stylish women from the forum

On the runway

High fashion lovers (like myself) have been delighted looking at all the fashion from the runways of Paris and Milan this past week. Black and white was seen everywhere, often combined with the sheer trend I discussed earlier. There was plenty of colour too as could be witnessed at Fendi and Issa. Prada’s collection which was inspired by geishas featured a lot of below-the-knee skirts, which was another trend often seen at the shows. As usual all my favorites can be found on my spring / summer 2013 trends board.

spring summer 2013 trends

Have a lovely weekend everyone and let me know what stylish plans you have for the weekend or show me what you are wearing in the style forum!

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Greetje

How nice for you to have a really good shop in Singapore. I had a look at Toton’s collection for 2013. Very different and rich. A bit on the wild side for me.
Lovely to see us Forum girls featured again. Thank you.
And I would love to have that Fendi outfit. I am not a great lover of skirts over your knee especially not wide skirts. They only show a little part of your legs and that does not do me much good. So usually I pair such a skirt with boots. But that Fendi outfit… Wow. Would not change a single thing. Oh alright then, I would add sleeves. (I bought a pair of sleeves at Canopi. An Irish tip on your blog. Clever idea.)

Sylvia

Ah you bought the sleeves! I’d be interested to see what you think of them. You must write a review for the site Greetje!

Greetje

I will. It is just that I have not got anything sleeveless in my wardrobe yet. Of course. But they seem to work. I tried them on and they seem to be fine. But I will do a complete survey and report back to you. I hope you don’t mind if I do not include any photos haha. You can pick those from her site.

Seeker

I agree with Greetje that must be such a good feeling to have a really good shop in Singapore and that seems soooooo stylish.
And it’s always a pleasure to see the forum ladies featured for their great looks, they are all so elegant and good looking. I feel an outsider.

On another note I would like to ask you for a favor, could you please help me with the giveaway I’m running on my blog? I’m not reaching the goals 🙁 Thank you.

Greetje

Oh Seeker, you sell yourself short. What a load of nonsense. You might feel like an outsider, but you are not. Not at all. I will have to be tough with you and say this:
if you talk negative about yourself it not only brings you down, it also brings other people down. They look at you and see a very nice woman. And believe it or not, when you are negative about yourself it is the same as if somebody else is saying something negative about you and friends are hurt by that. Also… don’t stare yourself blind on images. A photo is only a photo and shows somebody at their best. Every woman chooses that particular photo which makes her look good from 50 other photos that were awful.
And last but not least…looks are not the most important thing to have. Quite the contrary. No fashion and no fantastic body beats a good nature. Everybody wants to be around good natured people. Because they make you smile and make the world lighter.
Well….. this was quite a lecture. I apologize if I bored or offended you or any other reader. Just wanted to put things into perspective.

Seeker

Oh Greetje!!! You made tears come to my eyes…..
Your words are words of wisdom, words probably I needed to hear…….
But I guess menopause is attacking me…..or it’s my excuse.(?) I’m gaining weight and I’m starting to feel tired of fighting against it, my body is changing and I feel weird and I can’t control anything. I’m feeling down, very down and not stylish at all!!!! Everything I wear seems not to fit. And the mirror is my enemy. And I’m ashamed to feel some envy of some women of my age I see on Internet looking with a great figure. (more tears, I guess I’m exposing me too much….)
I’m so sorry my dear if I brought an issue that caused you some discomfort, it wasn’t my intention.
Thank you for being the way you are, so positive, kind and good nature! A person I want very much I could to be around!
xoxo

Hmmmm….. by the way, please enter the giveaway I’m promoting, it’s a nice stole 🙂

Greetje

I know a little bit what you are going through. But fortunately for me, menopause did not affect me too much. Lots of hot flashes yes, but f.i. not during the night. And it did not go on too long either. About two years really. So I was lucky. But I do share with you the fact that nothing fitted anymore and indeed the struggle against gaining weight.
What did I do?
1) I visited a proper weight consultant who explained the way to stay the same weight. She explained the “rules” on one A4 piece of paper. And I replaced sugar by artificial sugar. Took me a while before I found one that is safe (Sukrin).
2) I visited a plastic surgeon who liposucked my waist so everything fitted again. He took off 8,5 cm.
3) I started wearing body shapers. Every day really.
So all in all, I cheated on aging.
And I looked at photos of myself of 15 years before and realised in hindsight that I actually looked pretty nice. I definitely did not think of myself that way at the time. This was repeating itself. Again I did not think much of my looks and I realised that in 10 years from now I would be looking at my photos etc etc.
This had to stop. So I decided there and then I looked nice. Right now. Period!

Greetje

I forgot excercising. I took that up too: 1 hour twice a week and 20 minutes tummy excercises each day (as that is my “weak” point).
I hate it, but it gives me so much that I will keep doing it as long as I am capable of it. It is good for losing weight, to enforce your decalcificating bones, for more energy and more suppleness.

Seeker

Well Greetje… so many things to talk about….
Great you had a liposuction and that probably made you feel much more confident. Unfortunately is something I can’t do because it’s not a proceeder done here in my island. I would have to go to the capital Lisbon and it’s a very expensive thing, the liposuction. (and with the crisis….)
I’ve been trying to do a diet that could cause less damages but it seems I’m not achieving that. I don’t eat sugar or bread and I’m vegetarian (being vegetarian has nothing to do with the weight, it’s a way of life), but it’s not enough lately.
I’ve been thinking about the body shapers….. maybe I’ll give it a try.
About exercising it’s my weakest point I don’t like to work out and when I get home from work I feel no energy to do it and I know it would be a thing that would help me a lot. Well it seems I have no energy for anything, that I have to do a double effort to do something.
I had a huge depression in the beginning of the year and I’m trying to leave some medicines and it’s not been easy…..
You are such an inspiration with your positive way of thinking and the way you decided to stop looking at the past and not repeating the same…. I wish I could!!
Thank you for all your comments you made on my blog, (when I had some kilos less) so nice of you.
I love your nickname!!!!
Thank you also for entering the giveaway (you did the right way).
Thank you so much for all your support!

Greetje Kamminga

I am going to start a thread (as Sylvia calls it) on the Forum, in the section Beauty. I am sure there are a lot of women who have too little confidence. And for no reason at all.

Sylvia

yes, please do Greetje. It will be much better to discuss these issues over there. It’s something many 40+ women go through as it is often related to menopause or other changes after 40 and over there it will be easy to find and can offer support to other women as well. Thanks!

Suzanne

Dear Seeker –
I know it is easy to get discouraged and then it is a downward spiral. Despair begets more despair. It takes a lot of effort to see the positive (it is always there though!) but if you can – that leads to much happiness. My mother was a semi-invalid most of my life and a total invalid for at least 15 years. My best friend and now another friend’s young daughter suffer from the same disease. I understand the dark side of life. But looking for and concentrating on the good is so worth it. Instead of what doesn’t flatter you – find what does. Forget the “flaws” and emphasize the “fabulous”. I know I make it sound easy and it is not – but having a grateful heart is what gets us through this world. Every morning I text both of my children and remind them to have a happy day – and I mean it. My daughter just graduated college and has gone to work in a trauma unit. She sees injuries that are horrible – lives that are changed forever in the blink of an eye. Some days she hides in the supply closet and phones me to cry. I have true empathy for her but I always tell her to find the one positive in the situation and to cling to that. This is a fashion blog and we
discuss clothes and hairstyles and make-up and it can seem frivolous but showing our best selves brings us joy and the world needs more joy! I wish you only the best!
PS – your giveaway is wonderful but I don’t do Facebook. 🙂

Seeker

Dear Suzanne, thank you so much for your words.
Just a few hours ago I called my sister who is in Canada to talk to her about everything that is happening with me and to unburden a bit (since I have no friends here in my village with whom I can speak freely without being judge) And I told her that I was feeling self-centered because there are so many people with some disables and some of them have such a joy of living and I shouldn’t feel so bad with something that seems to be shallow.
Even I, I should be just so grateful for being alive and with no big blemish, after a car accident I had 11 years ago when I was as deep down as I had ever been in my life.
One sunny April’s morning I was driving to work on a high way, when I had a car crash.
My car flew making several circles, bumped into another one, to just stop on the curb of the road, all smashed. Luckily I was alone.
Meanwhile I lost my senses, but before that I saw the movie of all my life.
I was a month at the ICU, I had several bones broken, internal bleedings, and when I went home, directly to bed, I couldn’t walk, somebody had to feed me, to shower me, I was depending on others.
During those 6 months I’ve been fighting for my life, I had plenty of time to think.
Through a journey of searching, I fumbled, tasted, sobbed, but something there in my soul could not let me give up. I had to change my life by changing the way I thought about the world.
Meanwhile it seems I forgot everything!!! And my joy of living now it’s not just because I have the ability to walk (as I felt that time) but it also depends of the way I look.
I sabotage myself! Making these mistakes:
I compare myself to others and I negatively judge my natural tendencies.
And I suffer so much because of that. Rationally I know I shouldn’t do it, but emotionally I do it.
And now I feel myself trapped, with a lack of confidence!
I hope I would be able to overcome this as soon as possible and feel again joy just because I’m alive and I can smell the flowers.
All the best to you too my dear and thanks again.
About the giveaway I retain your intention 🙂

Suzanne

I am totally humbled by the journey you have been on. What a strong person you are to struggle back from such a horrific accident! You were given a second chance at life. I have no doubt you will emerge from the dark place you find yourself in now. Maybe you need to wallow in the sadness for a while (no one here will judge you!) and then you will find your confidence again when you are ready. This is the best blog for the 40plus woman. 🙂 So many good ideas for how to dress our changing bodies. Everyone here is encouraging and has style! Sylvia shows us it is okay to have fun with fashion and that is my number one rule!
PS – I looked at your site and I see a very pretty woman with good taste! You have many wonderful interests – fashion, ART, and yummy recipes. 🙂

Seeker

Yes my dear Suzanne, I was so “lucky” that the Universe gave me a second chance at life. And I’m so grateful for that, despite as I told you before sometimes I forget that…… maybe is just a human thing (?) just focus and emerging in my latest “problems”.
You’re right maybe I need the support of such great women who are a part of this site, because I feel very much alone in some aspects.
I have some diversified interests and art is one very present. Before my accident I did some ceramic sculpture but after it I stopped because I have some limitations doing some moves with my right wrist. And sometimes I write a “few things” that I call my poetic prose. But in my mother language which is Portuguese. And I also see the creation of an outfit as a form of art.
Thank you so much for all, my dear, it was a real pleasure to communicate with you. Let’s do it more times (?) 🙂

Sylvia

Hi seeker. I agree with everything that Greetje has said on this. We see a very unique and special woman, so hopefully you can soon see that too. Menopause can be tough. I know this book has been helpful for some: the menopause makeover by Staness Jonekos. It gives you lots of options on how to deal with (peri)menopause. There are also a lot of websites dedicated to the subject. If you’re interested I can send you some links.
Sorry I’m not able to help you with your giveaway as the company is a sponsor of mine too, so I would be known to them.

Seeker

Thank you Sylvia for the support and the information.
About the giveaway I understand, thank you.

Suzanne

Wow – your trends board is fantastic! It is a great way to see many styles all in one place and gives an overview of what each designer sent down his/her runway. I have to come back and study it when I have more time.
You have been attending some very fashionable events recently. I am truly happy for you! Your hard work is being rewarded! 🙂

Sylvia

Thanks Suzanne. It is. Thanks to people like yourself who have become such faithful readers. Thanks!
Glad you are enjoying the trends boards. It’s a great way to keep up with all the best styles.

Greetje

You are right Suzanne, totally forgot to have a look at it. I am repinning at the moment.

Anja van der Vorst

The women at the events look colorful and pretty indeed! And what a fantastic giveaway you have been organizing! That is SO cool! Looking forward to seeing what it contains;-).

And thank you for including me in your ‘stylish this week’ post with the other two fab looking ladies.

Sylvia

It’s going to be exciting indeed. I have lots of fabulous prices and spending vouchers lined up!

Suzanne

I just saw a picture of Bill Cunningham (in his bright blue jacket) at Paris Fashion Week taking photos of street style. It put a huge smile on my face – that guy still travels to Europe! He never slows down! I knew you would smile too. 🙂

Sylvia

I love that man so much. What an inspiration!

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