Every now and then you will see a ridiculous article appear on the internet that specifies what you can and cannot wear after 40. I often feel that the main reasons these websites publish these kind of articles is to get the whole 40+ community up in arms and rebel against it, which of course draws even more attention to those articles. (and you can be sure that they will write more of them because of that).
That is why I usually don’t react or link to them and just laugh at their wild suggestions.
Of course there is nothing wrong with providing guidelines, which I also do on this site. Many of you appreciate these tips, but they are very general and really hard to give as each individual’s style and comfort zone is just so different. And they certainly would not include silly things like hoop earrings, sleeveless tops and a pony tail!
The more I write and think about style and how to dress after 40, the more I believe that it is important to stay true to your individual style. (see also how to find your style and my style course). For that reason I would not personally wear many items on that list, like ripped jeans, just because they were never part of my individual style or because I personally don’t feel fabulous in them. I do know quite a few 40+ women though who look fabulous in them and wear them with great delight!
I also think it’s important that every 40+ woman makes up her own mind. I know quite a few women who don’t like to wear sleeveless tops anymore because they no longer feel fabulous in them. That is ok too and a personal choice. It is certainly NOT a style rule that you should not wear sleeveless tops after 40 and I will continue to enjoy my sleeveless tops and dresses for as long as I like!
Let’s just stick to the ‘rule’ that if you feel fabulous in something that you wear, you can still wear it, no matter how old you are. No matter what you wear, if you wear it with confidence then people will love it on you. (not all people mind you, but you will NEVER be able to please everyone with your look, so please yourself first and foremost). It’s definitely true that my style has changed since I was 20 and that I wear certain things differently but I still wear what I like.
Therefore, let’s celebrate that we can wear whatever we want at 40+!
I loved this initiative from Catherine from the fabulous blog Not Dressed as Lamb to do a ‘I will wear what I like’ challenge in August.
To participate just use the the hashtag #iwillwearwhatilike on Instagram or other social media.
If you then also tag your photos with #40plusstyle, you stand a chance to be featured on this blog. I will pick my favorites around one of the week’s themes and feature it on Saturdays here. This should be a lot of fun.
Today’s theme is oversized sunglasses, so here are some fabulous 40+ women rocking that look!
Do you still wear whatever you like at 40+ or have you set some limitations for yourself?